So you think you're ready to start dating? What is dating? It's more than liking one another, posting one another, it's a commitment, a promise! Swipe right to read more. #SexualityEducation #Dating101
Written by Maggie Gross, Summer 2023 Intern
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Remember, there is no rush. Don’t treat life as a race with milestones. This mindset sets you up to constantly compare yourself to others and what they’re doing. Only you can decide when you are ready to start dating.
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There is nothing wrong with being single. Allow yourself to take the time you need to understand who you are, and what you want in a partner. Be honest with yourself.
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Don’t force unrealistic expectations onto potential partners. It’s ok if people come and go. Supportive partners will listen, respect, and help you grow.
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Don’t tolerate unsupportive relationships that make you fear judgment or the violation of your boundaries. Remember your worth, and that you deserve respect.
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A supportive partner is someone who is as sure of you, as you are of them. They will listen to you. They’ll celebrate your victories, and mourn your losses with you. They’ll respect your needs and boundaries. They’ll be someone you can grow with and learn from.
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ask yourself these questions
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Am I happy with the person I am and do I understand what I value as an individual?
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Do I know what I want from a partner and a romantic relationship?
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Is dating for me?
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What else do I have going on? School, work, family, friends, hobbies, etc.?
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Have I healed enough from my past traumas to be present and give commitment to a romantic partner?
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Do I understand it is not their job to heal me, but to support me in my journey?
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Do I have realistic expectations?
